I think the idea of the traditional husband has been poisoned by feminist narrative-weaving that paints him as some sort of tyrant over his wife and children. The father certainly had authority over them, but a good father is not utterly domineering and controlling over everything – this doesn’t mean that he is permissive of wrongdoing though, or tolerant of disrespect.
By male standards, women are greater than children but lesser than men. Recognizing this fact and structuring society accordingly with this in mind will obviously lead to a very different society than from what we have today. They’d be more restricted, but ultimately it would be for the best. Just as one does not allow children to do whatever they wish according to each and every passing whim, the same holds true for women, who are more emotional, less rational and generally of more average intelligence compared to men, who are spread over a wider range of intelligence. One can treat a wife like a friend and still realize that she is not the same in capacity or nature as a man. Generally, absent of feminist propaganda or exceedingly weak men, this relationship comes about just as naturally as the relationship between a man and his son or daughters, or between a ruler and the ruled