I'm also critical of the privatization rhetoric on the family unit. If a family is only kept to breed with itself, it will be inbred--while the family does suffice and play an important social role, the race as an extended family, and the public good and other families, matter much more for the purpose of a healthy society.
The family plays a crucial social role, but to favor only private families, like private individuals, and deny socialization with these families among their peers denies the crucial social element that children will need to feel a deeper connection with the people. It isn't good to promote an anti-social doctrine with the family unit like the conservatives do.
Imagine if you had children, and a close-knit family, but you didn't allow these children to play with other children and alienated them socially--this would be unhealthy for the family and the public. The family, like the individual, is realized in extension with a greater family, a greater community and people.
The father and mother have right to their children, but these children should also be enrolled to interact with their people at large--the Hitler Youth was criticized for alienating these children from their family, but it is far worse for a private family to alienate their children from other children and teach them to partake in civil society. The family is good, and it is the first role model for any authority as a part of a healthy state, but denying the importance of having a state and bond with your kin is worse alienation.
The patriarchal doctrines are correct in ascribing an importance to the family, likewise, but the family serves as a part of the overall public, as a component.
A healthy people aspire to grander goals than the economic utility of the family unit (the word Economic meaning household management), they will aspire to political goals. There is nothing wrong with the Hitler Youth and its goals to create a social bond among children and incorporate them and their families into their social fold.
The family benefits from the public good because these families and individuals fulfill their purpose in tandem with their people. If the race is viewed as an extended family, the family and fathers will benefit.
The fatherly household won't be destroyed, but strengthened with the unity between households around a political cause--the father should be respected and has his place providing for his children--but children should be encouraged to develop social skills and partake in these groups.
Hitler Youth wasn't in the wrong for this. Only liberal conservatives and anarchists would have this problem--there is plenty of time for the family to bond with their children, but likewise for those children to learn and adapt for public life.