I mean, don't get me wrong, just because it's sad, unsightly and unsexy doesn't mean it isn't technically on-topic. It just rubs me the wrong way when the shitty things that shitty people inflict on each other become the popular idea associated with my fetish. I guess this shit is seized on because it's got a built-in drama charge.
I wonder if the lesbians who're into forced-orientation play feel the same way. I guess not, since my impression is that they experience it as a masochistic exercise.
>recently she has been talking about her 'identity issues' which shows you may not be wrong about the mental toll she has suffered and at this point I do just feel bad for her
I suspect that her issues, identity or otherwise, pre-dated all of this. She seems to have enough of them certainly.