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Defeating sexual desires Anonymous 11/04/2021 (Thu) 19:15:55 No.1789
Hello anons. My heart is somewhat heavy as I write this, I do not have anyone that I feel comfortable sharing this with so I am coming here under the cover of anonymity to exchange my thoughts and seek yours on this subject. Given that: Masturbation is a sin Sex outside of marriage is a sin Engaging in prostitution is a sin As a man I have a natural sex drive I would like help and advice on defeating my sexual desires without committing sin. If I abstain from masturbation, I can refrain from engaging in sexuality for around a period of a week with little difficulty. After that initial 1 week period, it starts to encompass my whole life. I have an erection when I wake up every morning, and I get more throughout the day, at least one an hour and more if I have to interact with any girl under 30. I pray for help in keeping the sexual thoughts away, but it feels like I'm fighting a losing battle and I will relapse at some point no matter what. The longest I've been able to abstain from anything sexual was when I was an atheist and I lasted around a year. After a period of a few months, paradoxically my whole life was concerned with sex, I was not having orgasms however the only thing I had on my mind every day was "I need to find a girl to have sex with" (which never worked), everything was secondary to that. It culminated with me getting cock-teased by a girl I was exchanging with for around a week, getting fed up when I realized I was just getting taken along for a ride then seeking the services of a prostitute, which broke my abstinence and made me lose my virginity, if that concept even exists for a man. I regret the choices I made. After this chapter in my life, I concluded that the healthiest thing to do was to masturbate once a month to get it out of my system and to be able to live my life without being entranced by sex all the time. Eventually I relapsed and was engaging with porn at least 10 times a week, until I found the faith which helped knock it back down to something more reasonable like 2-4 times a month. However, sin is sin and I would like to be fully rid of it. I know that the simplest answer is to marry a girl, whoever that does not appear to be possible for me (it appears that my fate is to be an incel which I've come to terms with), so it seems like I've come to an impasse. I can't masturbate without committing sin, and I don't have a way to relieve myself of those sexual desires legitimately. However, if I don't relieve myself of it, it quickly starts to take over my life (I had begun to call the action of masturbation "satiating the beast" in my head). I don't know what to do. I remember seeing this anon who castrated himself on old 8chan years ago and thought he had lost his mind then, though now every day I start to understand more and more why he wanted to be rid of his sexual desires. Additional question: Why did God give me (and other men) such a strong sex drive and at the same time put me and a lot of other men (40% of men under 30 reported no sex in the past year in a study around 2018 I believe and that was before the corona lockdowns which must have made that number shoot up even more) in an era where it is extremely difficult to rid yourself of this desire without committing sin?
I can give my testimony and some insight, and hopefully that will help. I had been looking at/watching porn and masturbating since I was around 10 years old. I am now 27. Around 18 years old I started getting into the really bad stuff. Lolicon, furry, femboys, bloodplay, /ss/, etc. I would view porn constantly, and masturbate 5-7 times a week. Now I was raised baptist, but I fell away for over 10 years. Around May this year I recommitted myself to Christ. Even before that, I knew what I was doing was bad, but I was shoving that feeling deep down so I wouldn't feel bad about it. In the past I had tried stopping on my own. I could go for a few days before breaking. I then started to ask God for help. After praying some I got it down to once a week, and I always felt extreme guilt after it. And now I have been clean since around June, of masturbation and porn. This is not to say that I am not tempted, because I am heavily. There are times where I will see women irl, stuff online, even just innocent things, and be deeply tempted. Most of the time I can just shake it off, but sometimes I do an immediate prayer asking for Jesus' help. I would say I am at the point now where yes, I want to masturbate and please myself, but I am much more interested in keeping God's Word. Something that helped me was reading Genesis 39, when Joseph was being tempted by his master's wife. You should read it. I have also seen this site thrown around as well: https://easypeasymethod.org/ >I know that the simplest answer is to marry a girl Paul does say that those who cannot hold back their passions should marry, but you shouldn't think of it that way. Marriage isn't just so you can have sex without it being a sin.
>>1789 Consider this: If we were wise, lust should incline us to realize that it is just another thing in which we are not built to serve ourselves. That you are meant to serve your spouse and your community. You are obeying God, who said "be fruitful and multiply."
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>>1811 What if the devil builds a world in which spousal relationships are deliberately encouraged to fail such to bring about the dominion of lust over human life without ever fulfilling its purpose in procreation?
>>1812 That would be the will of God anyway; Satan is not so powerful. It seems to me that we have entered a time in which a slack attitude towards spousal relations just doesn't cut it anymore. Part of this is the rise of socialism and feminism in the West, which means ultimately that you have to find a morally sane woman, or else you risk having a commissar in your home who will snitch on you for disobedience to the state. The other part of the equation is sky-high debts and women in the workforce, both of which feed off each other in our overworked quasi-slave economy. So it is really bad out there, but ultimately you have to find a woman at some point, and the tide may be turning in society as Uncle Joe sends the USA crashing down an empty elevator shaft
Hello, OP here. Just wanted to make a quick post that it's been better. Whenever I feel the lust appearing, I ask Jesus for help in keeping it away and it goes away pretty fast. Pornographic content I encounter on the webring doesn't phase me anymore (other than the occasional brown anime girl) and I'm feeling good. >>1811 This might not be a popular opinion but I don't really believe that modern marriage is legitimate, because divorce is available at any time for any reason. Do I believe that a man and a woman in a modern, religious marriage are committing sin by having relations? No, but I don't believe that men have to get married because the concept of marriage as it was intended has thoroughly been undermined. To me the modern marriage is a fraud as long as divorce for anything other than infidelity exists.
>>1789 Read Augustine he was a degenerate in his youth.

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