I agree with your sentiment, and everybody here (except trolls) want to have a civilized discussion (if we have faith in Jesus' grace rather than our own power, we are all brothers) but I take issue here:
>The traditional answer
In Matthew 15:3, Jesus corrects the Pharisees in thinking that tradition is more important than what the Bible says. I understand why it exists, and I think tradition was something God put in us on purpose, but it will never outweigh scripture. I won't quote the verse here because there's no point in antagonizing fellow brothers in the Lord.
But back to the topic of babies going to heaven, God says that you will be judged according to what you know.
"And the LORD God commanded him, “You may eat freely from every tree of the garden, (Verse 17)but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil; for in the day that you eat of it, you will surely die.”
In Deuteronomy 1:31-39, God judges the Israelites as being unworthy of entering the promised land, --but their children as worthy.--
"The LORD was also angry with me on your account, and He said, “Not even you shall enter the land. (Verse 38)Joshua son of Nun, who stands before you, will enter it. Encourage him, for he will enable Israel to inherit the land. (Verse 39)And the little ones you said would become captives
—your children who on that day did not know good from evil—
will enter the land that I will give them, and they will possess it."
So God clearly judges children as innocent, based on their lack of knowledge of sin, (though they still have sin because of their imperfect bodies).
This video (by Mike Winger):
Covers this perfectly. Skip to 25:20 to see him specifically talk about the passage in Deuteronomy where Israel's children are pardoned from Israel's rebellion.
In Matthew 18, Jesus' disciples ask Jesus who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven:
"(Verse 1)At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who then is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?”
(Verse 2)Jesus invited a little child to stand among them. (Verse 3)“Truly I tell you,” He said, “unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. (Verse 4)Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. (Verse 5)And whoever welcomes a little child like this in My name welcomes Me.
(Verse 6)But if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea."
Jesus counts little ones as believers, and for good reason. It's been scientifically proven that young children have an innate belief in God. No wonder "Jesus Loves Me, This I Know" is a favorite among children, glory to God forever and ever! Amen.
I don't think baptism does anything to anyone who isn't aware of what's going on, I believe it's meant to be an outward expression of a change that's already taken place in the heart.
I won't claim to that I know everything, because I obviously don't. (That's the whole point of being a Christian after all, letting go of the reigns and giving it over to Jesus)