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Defeating sexual desires Anonymous 11/04/2021 (Thu) 19:15:55 No.1789
Hello anons. My heart is somewhat heavy as I write this, I do not have anyone that I feel comfortable sharing this with so I am coming here under the cover of anonymity to exchange my thoughts and seek yours on this subject. Given that: Masturbation is a sin Sex outside of marriage is a sin Engaging in prostitution is a sin As a man I have a natural sex drive I would like help and advice on defeating my sexual desires without committing sin. If I abstain from masturbation, I can refrain from engaging in sexuality for around a period of a week with little difficulty. After that initial 1 week period, it starts to encompass my whole life. I have an erection when I wake up every morning, and I get more throughout the day, at least one an hour and more if I have to interact with any girl under 30. I pray for help in keeping the sexual thoughts away, but it feels like I'm fighting a losing battle and I will relapse at some point no matter what. The longest I've been able to abstain from anything sexual was when I was an atheist and I lasted around a year. After a period of a few months, paradoxically my whole life was concerned with sex, I was not having orgasms however the only thing I had on my mind every day was "I need to find a girl to have sex with" (which never worked), everything was secondary to that. It culminated with me getting cock-teased by a girl I was exchanging with for around a week, getting fed up when I realized I was just getting taken along for a ride then seeking the services of a prostitute, which broke my abstinence and made me lose my virginity, if that concept even exists for a man. I regret the choices I made. After this chapter in my life, I concluded that the healthiest thing to do was to masturbate once a month to get it out of my system and to be able to live my life without being entranced by sex all the time. Eventually I relapsed and was engaging with porn at least 10 times a week, until I found the faith which helped knock it back down to something more reasonable like 2-4 times a month. However, sin is sin and I would like to be fully rid of it. I know that the simplest answer is to marry a girl, whoever that does not appear to be possible for me (it appears that my fate is to be an incel which I've come to terms with), so it seems like I've come to an impasse. I can't masturbate without committing sin, and I don't have a way to relieve myself of those sexual desires legitimately. However, if I don't relieve myself of it, it quickly starts to take over my life (I had begun to call the action of masturbation "satiating the beast" in my head). I don't know what to do. I remember seeing this anon who castrated himself on old 8chan years ago and thought he had lost his mind then, though now every day I start to understand more and more why he wanted to be rid of his sexual desires. Additional question: Why did God give me (and other men) such a strong sex drive and at the same time put me and a lot of other men (40% of men under 30 reported no sex in the past year in a study around 2018 I believe and that was before the corona lockdowns which must have made that number shoot up even more) in an era where it is extremely difficult to rid yourself of this desire without committing sin?
Currently 8 months into nofap, except now I think it's affecting my physical health. Without ejaculation/discharge the prostate becomes engorged/backed up with excess seminal fluid that affects everything else surrounding it, the most common cause being frequent urination, and could also have other negative health side effects. It also causes a "buzzing" in my nether regions and makes getting aroused a lot easier, which is obviously bad for nofap. Normally the body resolves this through wet dreams so it discharges on its own, but for me those are few and far between. So what I'm looking for is some way to "clear" my system that doesn't involve voluntary orgasm or seeking pleasure. Do I have any options here?
>>15893 Does anyone have any suggestions?
>>16176 Speak to a doctor
>>16176 Back when I was anorexic I was completely asexual
>>15893 Seminal fluid gets reabsorbed into the body. Just stop ejaculating and the body with readjust itself, just like when someone stops doing substances they will feel withdrawal symptoms. If it gets truly excess your body will produce nocturnal emissions. Take it as a cross to bare and offer the suffering up to the Lord
Do you guys think it's possible for women to find a husband who doesn't watch porn, doesn't have fetishes, and is against sex work?
>>16268 Of course, the same goes for men trying to find a women that doesn't do any of that as well. You have to look in the right places, church being the best place to start.
>>16268 I think there should be at least a few in this board. Unfortunately you can't tell for sure if someone is not a coomer without getting to know them well unless he lives in an off-grid hut in the desert. Good luck with the husband.
>>16268 > is against sex work? You mean prostitution? Yeah, I think that last one wouldn't be that hard to find. Not a widespread depending on where you live belief but easier to find than the first two. Someone who doesn't watch porn or have fetishes would most likely be against prostitution as well.
Is it ok to still poke fun at porn/rape/whatever as a former porno addict or should you be a stoic? I'm still anti-porn/rape/whatever but lots of us have a wicked sense of humor.
>>16934 It depends I guess. I mock people with especially weird fetishes, because I find them to be bizarre and ridiculous. But rape jokes are a sensitive thing, especially around women as they find it to be uncomfortable or kind of intimidating if men make light of it. Just save your edgy humor for select people, and try not to make jokes that glorify porn/rape.
>>16268 >Do you guys think it's possible for women to find a husband who doesn't watch porn, doesn't have fetishes, and is against sex work? Grow up kid, being mature means being comfortable with your sexuality and finding alternative ways of expressing it. You crypto-mudslimes are soo prude.
>>16951 >you crypto-mudslimes are too prude. No it is the modern world that is too filthy. Yes, muslim are known to be more traditional nowadays but we should aim to be even more traditional. When I quit porn I became much happier you should try it too. There is nothing mature about being crypto voyeur. Fetishes likewise are probably some scars on your mind. You shouldn't reinforce them. Maturity is striving for the best and not letting your passions and hurt feelings control your life.
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My friend disappeared about half a year ago after announcing that he got a gf. He didn't respond to any of our messages and most of us were kind of annoyed, since it seemed like he simply got a gf and dumped the rest of us. However today out of nowhere he resurfaced, saying he's had a spiritual revelation, that this woman has actually helped his faith more than ever before, and they are planning on getting married (although not engaged yet). He also stated that they have avoided as much physical contact as possible (they haven't even kissed, says they're saving it for their wedding) and, what struck me the most, he deleted his Steam account (it was a huge one, very high-level, lots of games and big money items, essentially his equivalent of "camel through the eye of a needle"). I can tell from the way he's talking that he's serious about all of this and has undergone a profound rebirth, and as a result it's making me look at myself objectively and confront questions/answers that I normally wouldn't bother myself with. His piousness is only reminding me of things I hate about myself, chief of that being the endless struggle against lust/porn. Which is why I have finally trashed the dead weight that was my onahole/lube/other objects of lust. It is in the dumpster and I am not going to pull it out. I bought it years ago when I was still deep in my depravity, and although I hadn't used it in a long time, it was still in the back of my closet as dead weight. I am currently on nine months of nofap, and have started marking off the calendar days I have not watched porn. I have been virtually attending church and confessing my sins and asking for God's strength in resisting temptation. Yet after doing all of this, there has been no catharsis as I expected. Of course I did not immediately expect God to hand me a gf for finally getting rid of my lust, nor have I been actively seeking out a Godly woman. But I feel as if there is yet another part of me that is missing, something else I must do to reclaim God's love and favor. All I can think of is confessing my shortcomings to my friends, which quite frankly terrifies me, which only validates my belief that it is what must be done. Does anyone else have any input? Any idea on what comes next?
>>17057 tl;dr didnt read lol
>>17057 "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, which according to his abundant mercy hath begotten us again unto a lively hope by the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, To an inheritance incorruptible, and undefiled, and that fadeth not away, reserved in heaven for you, Who are kept by the power of God through faith unto salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations: That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ:" 1 Peter 1:3-7 We are promised eternal life in Jesus Christ, which is the greatest promise anyone could ever receive. But that doesn't mean the rest of our time here is going to be all sunshine. The above scriptures say that the manifold temptations of this world might put you in heaviness while you're waiting for Jesus to return. 2 Peter Ch. 3 explains that God is not slack concerning his promise, but is giving humanity this time so more people can repent. The end is going to come in God's timing, but let us bear this heaviness for a little longer if it means that more people will be saved. Remember that God's longsuffering meant that there was time for us to hear the gospel and be saved. You can't "reclaim God's love and favor", because you never lost it. Christ purchased it for you with his blood. It's easier to bear these temptations if we keep in mind what's awaiting us in heaven. It's when our mind slips into default mode that we lose perspective and are discouraged by earthly desires. I find that my mind slips into default earthly mode whenever I'm not reading the Bible. Like, even an hour after putting it down I'm already thinking differently and risk getting discouraged. In this day and age, other than reading the Bible, I don't know what a man can do to keep God's promise in remembrance all day.
>>17057 Trust me anon, you'll look back on your life in a few years after having been rid of all of these vices, and be so happy you did. You'd wish you did it sooner. The immense appreciation comes later on once you live to see what you've been missing out on. When you can finally be with a girl, and have a wholesome relationship with her. When you experience selfless passion for another person, and the intimacy between you. The tenderness and compassion of that will be more gratifying than the lonely pleasure seeking that you've been confined to.
Would i get into legal problems if i go to confession and confess to a rape?
>>17143 People have confessed to crimes and promptly had the police called on them before. Look it up.
>>17143 >>17144 This is why confessions are bullshit. God already knows, so there is no need to tell anyone anything.
>>17168 Lol lmao he thinks he gets forgiven without confessing his sins.
>>17168 >>17170 Just confess your crimes directly to God.
>>17170 "And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him. Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed." James 5:15-16 There's healing value in confessing your sins to another human, but I can't think of any scriptures that make it a prerequisite to receive God's forgiveness. >>17171 This.
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>>1789 Natural biological human functions are a "sin"? Is urinating and defecating also a sin according to whoever or whatever you got this from? Where is the logic in any of this post?
>>17173 Masturbation isn't natural you baitposting faggot
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>>17173 Yeah, true, I have to watch porn and masturbate everyday or else I'm gonna die from intoxication!!!! GGRRRRRR, it's all the stupid fucking "natural biological human functions", dude...!!!!!!!!!!
>>17173 What was the site for making these pasta pictures?
>>17180 Try making a real argument next time. Oh wait this board is about making christians look as stupid as possible. Well done.
>>17173 Rape is natural and it's still a sin, just because something is natural doesn't make it right.
>>1789 As someone who followed that 99% more than anyone else. Don't stress yourself, It's practically all bs that no one follows. Even those that preach it the loudest. >Concubines in Bible Modern equivalent of a f**k buddy >Polygamy of King David >F**king multiple holes >Still listed as friend of God All those around you who you think are prim and proper you learn about years later were at it like rabbits. >After this chapter in my life, I concluded that the healthiest thing to do was to masturbate once a month to get it out of my system and to be able to live my life without being entranced by sex all the time. This is the best solution. Don't worry you'll not have a sexual desire when you're old.
>>17196 >rape is a sin Wrong, the bible encourages rape and conquest, this is how all the best christians like Hernando Cortez and Godfrey Bouillon behaved through the centuries as well as many prophets of the old testament. Might has always made right, I know Christianity is the true religion because it has no trouble acknowledging this.
>>17297 >Polygamy of king David You mean when he killed a woman's husband out of lust so they could have sex and then God punished both of them? >Fucking multiple holes >Still listed as a friend of God God's not going to ditch a good tool over something nearly inconsequential but there's a reason why lust is banned. Once you degrade sex into a pursuit of pleasure it's only a matter of time before you begin to devolve. The David and Bathsheba story is a good example of that.
>>17311 >You mean when he killed a woman's husband out of lust so they could have sex and then God punished both of them? No, unless you're referring to when the prophet told him off and referred to lambS plural. i.e. his multiple sex partners that God was OK with his friend having. Absalom screwing his dad David's many sex partners in a tent orgy couldn't have happened if David only had one wife could it?
>>17311 >ditch a good tool over something nearly inconsequential >implying multiple sex partners is wrong So that's why God blessed Israel for f**king four different women?
>>1789 >I would like help and advice on defeating my sexual desires without committing sin. You are stuck in your head. Demons obviously like to visit you there and persuade you away from God and into gratifying your sensual pleasures. What you can do is to start doing 'Jesus prayer'. Just keep repeating 'Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me' without ceasing. At first repeat it aloud, then in your mind and finally you should be able to keep repeating it in your heart. This will protect your intellect from distraction and render it impregnable to diabolic attacks. >Additional question: Why did God give me (and other men) such a strong sex drive Because you are a being of flesh and soul thus you have fleshy desires and your free will is always tested. Would you rather have one tremendous test on specific time in life or a lifetime of learning and getting further to God?
>>18350 Forgot to add this
>>18350 >flesh is bad lmao if flesh was bad in the first place God would not have made it. The desire to sin is the turning of the flesh against its natural purpose
Is it possible to expunge specific thoughts/fantasies from your mind or is it all over for me?
>>18355 Gay thoughts again anon? Don't worry, pray to the Lord, and know that if it is not His will to grant it in this life you will be free of it in the next.
im having pedophilistic thoughts, in my case should i apply the same principles towards women with little girls? like dont looking at them or photos of them? >also please pray for me i really want to be delivered from this
>>18374 You should avoid causes of lust in general. Praying for you brother
>>18374 >/christian/ goes on a crusade shilling on IBs >userbase are self-hating brown gay pedo trannies wew lad
>>18374 Is this the pedo spammer? Did he finally repent?
>>18418 thanks, brother >>18419 sick people are the ones that need a doctor >>18430 no, im not that guy, i was actually thinking about going to those sites and preach but i will probably get banned and doxxed
>>18442 >i was actually thinking about going to those sites and preach Please don't go to child porn sites
>>18419 It's no different than anti-gay republicans being exposed as filthy drug addicted sodomites, they do not practice what they preach. >>18442 >sick people are the ones that need a doctor See the wounded healer archetype >In Greek mythology, the centaur Chiron was a "Wounded Healer", after being poisoned with an incurable wound by one of Hercules's arrows. Jung mentioned the Chiron myth "wounding by one's own arrow means, first of all, the state of introversion" >For Jung, "a good half of every treatment that probes at all deeply consists in the doctor's examining himself... it is his own hurt that gives a measure of his power to heal. This, and nothing else, is the meaning of the Greek myth of the wounded physician." >no, im not that guy, i was actually thinking about going to those sites and preach but i will probably get banned and doxxed You are sick, you have not healed yourself yet and you think you can cure the masses, you are a pathetic pedophile and a larper.
>>18450 ok,sorry... >>18451 and your point is?
>>18451 Jung and Greek mythology is pagan. Begone heathen.

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